Do you share too much on Social media – so much that it annoys people?
I know I have a tendency to share too much and too often (I’m over enthusiastic!) – and I’ve appreciated recent, honest feedback from friends that it’s time for me to be more sparing with my sharing!
A recent chat with Chris Adams (Hollywood and Facebook exec and social media speaker and commentator) helped me:
- Understand the reasons behind sharing too much
- Feel less guilty (he has the same challenge) but more determined to do something about it
- Learn how to still share – but more selectively
I realize the “irony” of sharing about the challenges of sharing too much! But this is IMPORTANT and a common challenge!
Thanks again Chris – for your insights and for sharing your personal challenge with sharing too much.
I’m sure many of my social media friends and colleagues will thank Chris too for helping me share more selectively.
I also liked how Chris admitted that he shared too much “proud dad” stuff about his son’s sporting and school achievements. That’s a natural reaction for proud dads. Once again Chris has helped me feel less guilty AND more empowered to not share so much proud dad stuff. (Funny, I sent out two posts this morning about my kids!) I promise to keep posting the kid stuff (I do get good reaction from many people) – but I will try to be more sparing.
If I’m not mistaken, I suspect that many of Chris’s friends and colleagues will share with him pictures of their cats etc!
Why I’ve been sharing so much:
Like Chris, I moved and relocated my family. In my case we moved was back “home” to Brisbane after more than 15 years away.
Social media was a great way to:
- maintain old contacts from Sydney
- re-establish contact with my old Queensland friends I’d lost touch with over the years
- re-establish my business connections back in Queensland
I find that there can be a wonderful warm feeling when you re-connect with someone you haven’t heard from in years (sometimes decades).
Also, as Chris says, It’s so easy to share stuff on social media – just by pressing a button.
I know it can be addictive when you get positive responses (likes and comments) especially from people you haven’t heard from in years!
I think social media tends to amplify your natural personality tendencies.
If you are a naturally expressive person – social media can make you super-expressive.
If you are a naturally “sharing” person – Social media allows you to share so easily.
If you are a naturally “smart-arsed” make sniping comments type person – social media makes it so easy to do that.
Also, some people find it difficult to directly tell social media friends and contacts that they share too much.
If you share too much – fear not – you are not alone and you can still share – but in a more selective way.
I am sharing this – because I think it is valuable and may help you suggest to a person that they share too much!
Please share this – especially to others who may share too much!
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Who is writing this?
I’m Tony Biancotti – an Australian journalist turned communication consultant and I learn lots from former Hollywood exec and Facebook exec Chris Adams (who now lives in Brisbane). Chris and I catch up every month or so and I capture his views (on business, presenting, pitching etc) on camera. I write the text (my opinion) in these posts and Chris gives his opinion in the video.